Proverbs 4:23 ‘Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.’(KJV)
I once attended a crusade and happened to sit next to a certain woman I did not know. We became fast friends as we spoke about the ministry of the mister who was conducting the crusade. As the time came near for the event to start, she got very excited and chatted nonstop about the man of God. I realized very quickly this woman had formed a certain soul tie to the minister. I was very uncomfortable as I’d shared my level of involvement with that particular ministry. During the half hour wait time as the auditorium was filling up, we had exchanged phone numbers and now I realized the error of my ways. I couldn’t connect this woman with the ministry because in her babbling, she had told me several times how much she thought and searched out the minister and wished she was married to him. She was also married. In a firm voice, I reminded her she was married. She got offended then quickly backtracked her words. I couldn’t find an empty sit because the auditorium was full and I did not want to stand for hours so I sat and chose my words carefully for the reminder of the crusade.
I tried hard not to judge her and found myself shutting down every time she tried to pry information out of me. It wasn’t easy and eventually, I flat told her she was being a distraction to me because every few seconds she would whisper in my ear. I was reminded of this scripture Proverbs 4:25-27 ‘Let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you. Make level paths for your feet and take only ways that are firm. Do not swerve to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil.’ I was a little upset with myself for my part in feeding this woman’s obsession with the minister. I had become an accomplice to a one man emotional affair and I beat myself down for it. After the crusade, the woman and I walked together to the parking garage and I decided to take that opportunity to talk to her. She was embarrassed and defensive but I assured her I wasn’t passing judgment. Part of me planned to never return any of her phone calls but the other part wanted to help her. Somehow, she had fallen into this trap without realizing her attachment wasn’t just abnormal but sinful. Would I want someone to judge me or embarrass me if I was in her shoes? No. I would want a strong God fearing woman to stand with me in prayer and counsel me.
So we kept in touch and without even saying much to her she admitted she’d crossed the line. I love how God works! This woman was willing to change, and the Holy Spirit healed her heart and while she is now a partner in that ministry, she is healthy emotionally and spiritually and God is using her in amazing ways to bless that ministry and others. Healing is possible and so are second chances. Our God is merciful and extends grace to all who repent.
The one thing God reminds me of is grace. When people come up to me for prayer, I listen with an open heart and mind and I never pass judgment. I’m careful when I counsel those I’m praying for by only speaking what the Holy Spirit puts in my heart. I’m not perfect so I don’t expect anyone else to be. It takes a lot for some to open up to a complete stranger and by the grace of God, they are delivered. If you’re an intercessor, do not allow the offenses of others to lodge in your heart. Don’t chew more than you can handle and ALWAYS RELY ON THE HOLY SPIRIT.